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The Course of Love by Alain de Botton. Penguin Books
Anything but a crash course in love, romance, marriage, all
the wear and tear of life on relationships from  the  guru.
It`s a slim volume (just 222 pages) which traces the meeting of Rabih Khan and
Kirsten McLelland in Ediburgh,  where  both live and work. It`s love that
comes steadily if not at first sight, and runs deep. Rabih and Kirsten get
married and proceed to live their lives.
What follows is the detritus of life and love: falling out,
making up, squabbling, loving, trusting, distrusting, going shopping together,
setting up home together. Discovering each other. They have two children and of
course, they begin to drift apart, to grate on each other`s nerves. They
indulge in affairs, fleeting, guilt-ridden clandestine encounters that bring no
real joy to either.
When things get to point non plus, they are committed enough
to each other to see a therapist who sort of helps them get their marriage back
on track. And the story ends with them celebrating Kirstin`s birthday in a Highland
castle resort, a little ill at ease with each other yet comfortable in the
knowledge that they have run the long race.  
De Botton intersperses the couple`s trajectory with what can
only be called perceptive little homilies about the nature of human beings in
love and out of it. He lays bare the insecurities, the hurts, the anger, the
resentment, the hopes and expectations, the disappointments and
disillusionments. These italicised interjections may not work for all readers
but contain nuggets of wisdom that, while not exactly novel,  definitely bear repetition.

Ultimately, this isn’t the story of just Rabih and Kirsten,
it’s the story of all of us who have lived and loved, married, stayed married, divorced,
moved on, fallen in and out of love. Love is the start of it all  but this is the story of what happens
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Sheila Kumar • September 9, 2016

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